Having a bright outlook on life is essential, but it is something people often overlook. The way you look at a situation can affect you. After all, your thoughts define your behaviour and your behaviour, in turn, defines you.
Let us look at an example here.
Suppose, one day, when you glance out of your window, it so happens that you cannot observe the moon. There may be a host of reasons for your not being able to see it.
Maybe you are looking at it from the wrong end of a telescope.
Maybe, you have forgotten to put on your specs.
Or, maybe, the fact that the moon is not normally visible during the day has escaped you for the moment.
There are many possibilities to consider before you start blaming a lunar eclipse for your inability to complete your assignment. For it must be a graded assignment, right? You can always copy someone else’s. There will be many of them for you to complete single-handedly. Don’t worry.
Many things in life seem better if you look at them from another angle. We generally have a knack for blaming other people and things for every thing that goes wrong in our life. All this finger pointing has definitely contributed to the all of us being where we are today as a nation. Complaining is a vital part of most students’ lives. These are some of the lines you can always expect to hear from one of us:
“I flunked, well, because, the subject/professor/syllabus/ the administration’s behaviour/ my mind is, well, faulty.”
”I could not do well because, you know, my teachers/parents/class fellows/the system/ the load shedding/_ _ _ _ (anything the student can think of) would not let me do well.”
Optimism is a virtue often underrated, particularly in our student culture. Too much of it is surely dangerous, but too less of it is more so.
Here it must be clarified that it is not being implied, even for a single moment, that one’s own self is the sole cause of one’s all problems. Far from it. But the fact that needs to be highlighted is that always looking for a scapegoat has become a habit with most of us, and that, surely needs to be modified. Try looking honestly, and you will discover your own attitude, lethargy or sheer carelessness at the root of most problems.
Some people have a natural horror of maintaining the status quo, but they confuse it with die-hard cynicism. Complaining about it to yourself in your head will not hurt the “precious” system. All you will be able to accomplish through it is to drain your own self of energy and enthusiasm. Grumbling about the problem will not help. It never does. If you spend too much time mourning the portion of the glass that is empty, the rest of the water is soon going to evaporate.
At times, it does happen that there is some serious shortcoming in your course, or instructor, or the system, or something else. If you do come across a fault that lies outside, think about the ways in which you may be able to change it, even a little bit. Small changes can be really important, derivatives being outstanding examples. The Italians say that at the end of the game, the king and the pawn go into the same box. My favourite interpretation is that a pawn is as important as a king. You, of course, can decipher it the way you like.
At the end, it is all about the way you perceive everything.That makes most of the difference.